Opinion

Why ‘The Dating Scene’ needs a male voice

Each week the Scene section of β€œThe Creightonian” regales the student body with the latest entertainment news and gossip.

This section also contains a weekly column by April Payne, possibly the singular reason students pick up the paper each week.

Payne writes a witty weekly column about relationships and other dating advice known as β€œThe Dating Scene.”  Her articles are always clever and informative.

Both male and female students alike read, learn and commiserate about whatever new relationship tidbit Payne espoused this week.

Like it or not, men of Creighton, Payne gives us the inside track to what many of us deem life’s greatest challenges: understanding women and understanding relationships.Β  Whether it is comparing relationships and men to crockpots, Christmas trees or whatever else the case may be, Payne

has a gift.

Not to burst the bubble of the women on campus, but men only care to a point.Β  We don’t dwell on the article’s advice or try to implement it into our daily repertoires.Β  We read it, begrudgingly say, β€œHuh. Interesting.” and move on.

It’s like the whole directions dilemma that plagues every family vacation.Β  Men refuse to ask for directions when they get lost because doing so is seen as a knock against their pride.

Men resort back to their Neanderthallic ways and press on, blindly, into the unknown before finally realizing, β€œWait, I’ll be the bigger man and stop to ask for directions,” even though everyone around them had been saying this the whole time.

Men must come to the conclusion that they need help on their own.Β  This brings me back to relationship advice.Β  Guys think what they’re doing is working and refuse to take advice, even free advice, out of fear of appearing less macho.Β  That’s why men don’t implement what Payne tells them, so the burden then falls on the women.

This leaves the women of Creighton guessing and wondering what men are thinking.Β  I know we’re not complicated creatures but give us some credit.

Based on the ratio of males to females on campus, a male perspective might be beneficial for those females looking for a new leading man.

I am of the opinion that the Scene section needs a male perspective to run alongside, or in response to, Payne’s weekly column.Β  Female readership might want to know what guys are thinking in an effort to cut out all of the guess work.Β  Payne is a girl writing for girls about boys and relationships.Β  Payne is always spot on with her observations about relationships.

But wouldn’t it make more sense to learn about guys and what guys are thinking from a guy?Β  I’m sure girls have always had questions they’ve wanted to ask the other sex but never have been able to.

Scene should begin a section that answers these types of questions or explains a topic each week written by guys for girls about guys and a guy’s view on relationship-type stuff.

Social media has many benefits, but before you can update that Facebook relationship status, you must first be in a relationship and we can use Twitter to do just this.

I don’t get to make any of the important decisions around here, but I was thinking what if girls on campus β€œTweeted” their relationship conundrums to β€œThe Creightonian” or to Scene, and a male answered a few of these β€œThank God I finally asked” questions.Β  Wouldn’t that

be helpful?

I’m no relationship expert but I know enough to know that clear and open communication between all parties is crucial.Β  Clearly articulated viewpoints and explanations for all the questions guys provoke might just be what we’ve all been missing.

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May 2, 2025

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