Why is it that some of the greatest girls we know keep chasing after the boys who treat them like the gum stuck to the bottom of their shoes?
Why do they hang around the kind of guys who continually use them? Why are they always so insistent that these boys are different around them? Why do these fun, amazing girls always seem to go trailing after the “fixer-upper” men?
I had a friend whose boyfriend was notorious for being a player. One day, I confronted her about his dating history and why she stays with him. She told me she liked him because it made her feel special that he was so awful to everyone but sometimes not awful to her. She said she knew she was different and would be the one to change his ways.
Well as you guessed, she wasn’t different, he didn’t change and in the back of her mind, I bet she knew that it would end up that way. She knew exactly what she was getting into but she just sat there and let him tear her apart.
For some reason if you are a human being, over the age of 13 and have a gender, you have heard the age old question: Why do girls like jerks?
Here is the answer to that question. Girls do not like jerks, but they like bad boys, which are men who act like jerks but really aren’t. No matter how many times a girl says that she is looking for a nice guy, she always seems to fall for the bad boy. This is because everyone likes a challenge, and in this case, the challenge being his emotional unavailability. This right here is why good girls love bad boys: every girl, particularly the bleeding heart type, wants to think she can fix the broken bad boy and be the one he falls for; chances are she isn’t.
A nice guy is a guy who cares for the well-being of the girl he’s interested in, the downside is he usually resides in the friend zone. Nice guys want to get to know a girl, fall in love with her, and treat her right. Nice guys take the harder path than the bad boys where they endure rejection and feelings of inadequacy. The saying nice guys finish last does not always hold true, because when nice guys do win, they win big, it just may take a while.
Why does it take so long for girls to figure out that the nice guys are the better choice? This is because girls take forever, not only when it comes to getting ready to go shopping in the Buckle, but forever in general. At some point, girls learn to fully understand and recognize the immense benefits of being with a nice guy. Girls have to find their self-worth and for that to happen we have to have someone who believes in us. We want someone who treats us with respect and someone we can trust.
It may seem like good girls only like the bad boys, but in the end, it’s the nice guy who gets the good girl.